Fighting Fair Guide

	The Fighting Fair Guide
	*Do I Want To Resolve The Conflict?* Be willing to fix the problem.
	*Can I See The Whole Picture Not Just My Own Point Of View?* Broaden your outlook.
	*What Are The Needs And Anxieties Of Everyone Involved?* Write them down.
	*How Can We Make This Fair?* Negotiate.
	*What Are The Possibilities?* Think up as many solutions as you can. Pick the one that gives everyone more of what they want.
	*Can We Work It Out Together?* Treat each other as equals.
	What Am I Feeling? Am I too emotional? Could I – get more facts, take time out to calm down, tell them how I feel?
	*What Do I Want To Change?* Be clear. Attack the problem, not the person.
	*What Opportunity Can This Bring?* Work on the positives, not the negatives.
	*What Is It Like To Be In Their Shoes?* Do they know I understand them?
	*Do We Need A Neutral Third Person?* Could this help us to understand each other and create our own solutions?
	*How Can We Both Win?* Work towards solutions where everyone’s needs are respected.
	Reproduced with permission from: The Australian Conflict Resolution Network.
	Excerpted from: "Alternative Dispute Resolution That Works" By E. G. Tannis (Captus Press, York University Campus, Toronto, Ontario Canada 1988).